Is it wise to tell secrets before marrying a person?
Post date: 2006-12-11
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You really need to elaborate. What secrets are you meaning? I'm assuming it's something important to your life, not that you shoplifted candy from a store when you were 12. Some people think true love means not keeping secrets. But some secrets are not worth knowing.
Does this secret pertain to your current relationship, or is a rather important part of your background (drug abuse, a previous marriage, a child?) It's up to you whether or not you should tell them. If there is a good chance they will find out, it's best to be honest right now. Finding out later will wreak havoc on your partner's trust in you. If it is a secret of your past that is not harmful to your current relationship, I would not divulge.
If it's an affair you had during your current relationship, it's up to you to decide whether to tell. Stay quiet and they may never know, or it may come back to haunt you. There are no certainties.
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Yes, it is very wise. It is best to get everything out in the open before tying the knot. Be truthful and honest.
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Take it from someone who's been around the block a few times. SOME THINGS are meant to be taken to the grave. Unless it is a sexually transmitted desease he or she can get, otherwise, if it doesn't effect you both here and now and and it has nothing to do with you at this point in your life, why would you. If something a million years ago comes up and he or she doesn't like it, then they didn't love you and or they don't understand the concept of love. You can't help their immaturity. It's not your fault. Don't beat yourself up because you made a mistake or made a bad choice years back.
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Blah Blah Blah Be honest my ass. For Gods sake keep your mouth shut unless every time you fight you want your "secrets" thrown in your face. Anything you say will be used against you time and time again and they will try to make you feel less of yourself for any not so lady like actions in your past. Then you need to take in to thought you might get divorced then all your secrets will be public knowledge. Do not ever give anyone anything to hold over you cause most of them will.
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Is it wise to tell secrets before marrying a person?
Absolutely!! Tell him/her everything. It is wrong to withhold information from someone you are marrying, ceratinly you wouldn't tell everyone everything but as far as someone you are marrying is different.
What are grounds for withholding vital information?
