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What are causes and factors for the failure of a marriage?
Post date: 2006-12-11
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That's a very complicated question because men and women are complicated creatures. The main reasons are money problems, not getting along with in-laws, immaturity, not willing to work at the marriage when every day problems arise and not trying to COMMUNICATE one's feelings. Like any good thing in life it takes work. It's not easy, but if you love each other you can conquer the world together. Poor or rich we all have the same problems. Some just have more property and monies to deal with in a divorce.
I was married the first time to a womanizer and it wasn't quite 4 years before I got a separation and then moved out. It was difficult for me to admit failure in my marriage, but when only one of the spouses is trying it isn't worth hanging around. I was so glad I moved out on my own (no children or properties involved) and I got to know who I was and for the first time in my life had some space to know where I wanted to go with my life and what I was all about. I ended up meeting a wonderful man a few years later and we dated, and have been married for 33 years. Was every day of marriage perfect? No! We had our arguements, we went through the "him watching sports too much and being a little on the selfish side." I wasn't much different. It takes time to give up a few things you are use to doing on your own and then sharing your life with someone else day after day. As we grew in our marriage we made a habit of sitting down when my husband got home from work and over a cup of tea we asked how each other's day went and if one or the other had a problem about anything we worked it out together. Do we still get into arguements? You bet! However, we love each other dearly and sometimes those few arguements add a little spice to our lives.
Marcy
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Marriages fail for various reasons: 1. Lack of love 2. Lack of respect 3. Lack of emotional maturity 4. Not putting the spouse needs ahead of your own 5. Lack of communication (effective communication) 6. Cheating 7. Lack of trust
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The root of the problem is ultimately found in societal values (through media and school indocterination), unrealistic expectations (media fairy tales, wedding magazines, television), and big government (via special interest groups.)
Divorce rates are generally 50% or higher in most Western countries and will continue to expand under the current political system.
There are many reasons for the breakdown of the family unit, to sum it up very simply:
It is in the best interests of big governments to ensure conflict remains between different groups of people people. (tougher laws, more intervention between police and disputes between children / parents.) The special interest groups and the Millions of people employed by them depend on these key things:
- Victim mindsets - Entitlement comples - Maintaining wedges between 2 groups (eg, men-women, blacks-whites) - Constant indocterination of new victims
These groups are not filled with bad people, just people who don't realize their hard work has exponentially magnified the problem.
Finally, the vast available safety nets allow one to easily leave a marriage without financial burden. Statistics found throughout gov't agencies reveal 70% of marriages are ended by 1 specific gender. The ultimate reason this occurs are the laws that benefit this group are generally 1 sided, and it is considered the other gender has been replaced by the "state daddy." More and more are finding less incentives each year to marry, and statistical proof is found in abundance throughout western world government agencies.
This trend will continue until large gov't has been replaced by a significantly smaller one.
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